An as always too quick American adventure
A belated Merry Christmas to all...I'm back from my stateside visit, my second one in less than a month. I don't think I blogged about my trip back at Thanksgiving, but the very short report is that it had been more than six months since my last trip to America and, for the first time since my big move, I felt like a foreigner in my own country.
My vocabulary was all wrong, I kept forgetting that they add sales tax at the till (register) and the whole time, though I loved seeing my family, especially my mother, I couldn't wait to come back to my beloved London. It was a very odd feeling. The only caveat being that since I went to Boston to see extended family (whom I love dearly), I didn't see my brother and his family, nor did I get to see any of my friends.
So, not 3 weeks later, I was soaring back to America for a slightly longer visit to DC for Christmas week. And, having had that weird foreigner feeling so recently, I was preparing myself for a weird week, for 7 days of wishing I were in London...7 days of trying not to be that annoying whiner who wishes they were somewhere else.
I did have a somewhat busy week planned and whilst my trip to Boston had been almost completely unstructured, my trip to DC included plans for most of the week, with what seemed like a comfortable lull at the end of the week. So it wasn't exactly dreadful.
So, landing at Dulles, I felt my usual post-flight grossness...whilst I am eternally grateful that I've accumulated enough miles to almost always upgrade to business class, the reality is that zooming along at 35,000 feet for 8 hours hurts, no matter how comfy your seat is.
And, for the first time since my move, I landed in America with no mobile (cell), as the family share plan my mother and I had had for years expired and we decided not to renew it...and I'd discovered during my Black Friday shopping spree that pay-as-you-go phones are stupidly expensive in America - $200 when all was said and done, so I'd chosen to just do without.
So. Before I left London, I made specific plans with my mother for when and where to meet at Dulles. The plans, of course, got royally screwed up. And I, of course, became foaming-at-the-mouth grumpy, quite literally like a little kid who'd been awake for too long. It didn't help that when I walked out into the night, coatless because a recent email from my mother had included a "neiner neiner" tale of 70F/21C, I was met with instant hypothermia.
I don't know what had happened to the tropical paradise, but DC was back to its freakishly frigid December self...so, frantically pulling out my coat, I grumpily trudged to the complete other end of the airport where, having discovered via a pay phone, my mother was waiting.
Shortly thereafter, we arrived at the hinterland of the family's horse farm and home and my brother et al were there, as my brother was fixing a Christmas Tree Catastrophe involving a cracked stand and seas of water on the hardwood floors. Oops.
My dog was mildly happy to see me, but my nephew was super excited to see me, which made my decade. I'd been worried, egotistically, that since he hadn't seen me in 7 months, I might have fallen off his not-quite-7-year-old radar. However, my elation at still being his "favourite person," as he often calls me, was soon marred by the realisation that he thought I was back in America for good. Ugh.
He looked at my one suitcase and said "how'd you get all your stuff in here?? I thought you'd have like 4 suitcases!"
My brother exchanged a sideways and silent "uh oh" look and we explained that the rest of my stuff was back in England and that I was only visiting for a week. The explanation was met with a sullen "oh" from the kid and my heart was immediately ripped out of my chest.
Moving right along, I visited with the entire family until after midnight and finally hit the pillow nearly 24 hours after I'd left my bed in London the previous morning.
Jetlag never ceases to confuse, annoy and amuse me...logic would have you think that if you stay awake for 24 hours straight, your body will recover by sleeping extra long afterwards...or at least for a normal night's sleep, ignoring whatever body clock it thinks it's on. But no, there is no logic. Having fallen asleep at nearly 1 AM, I woke up, wide awake, at 5 AM...10 AM in London. Cute.
I'd been astonished and proud of myself that, despite my usual last minute start on Christmas shopping, I had done almost all of it before I got to DC and only had a couple of things to run out and get on my first day in DC.
I'm not sure if it was a foreigner moment or simply my global lack of direction, but for my first fun event of the week, I was meeting a dear friend and former colleague for dinner at a restaurant I thought I knew how to find. Famous last words. With no phone to call and watching the gas tank creep lower and lower but not wanting to take the time to get gas, the minutes passed and I became later and later for our dinner. Finally arriving an hour late, I burst into the restaurant with frantic apologies...but it was all fine. Except I realised how incredibly necessary and nice a mobile is. After a very lovely and long dinner, we said our goodbyes and I rolled across the street for gas/petrol. The car took 18.38 gallons and the tank is 18.5 gallons. Oopsy.
For day 2 of Christmas in DC, I was meeting another friend and former colleague for lunch and was going to my old office to meet her. There were more twilight zone moments when I arrived and everything in the office looked different. I said quick hellos and hugs to a few former colleagues I knew and my friend and I went off to a very lovely lunch across the street...upon returning with her to the office, I made my rounds to say "quick" hellos and had the great fun of surprising several former colleagues and getting to go on and on and on (and on) about London. Until it became seconds before my parking meter was set to expire and I went darting off to my oldest and dearest friend's house.
And we had a nearly 12 hour visit that was still too short, where her 4 year old daughter treated me to a full and detailed tour of her playroom and the laundry room and we, the adults, discovered that one of her dolls is Chucky's bride because it was giggling entirely on its own. Repeatedly. The adults were far more bothered by this than the children, incidentally. And a visit with the B family would be entirely incomplete if her husband and I didn't get to bring up the "barf sweater," from 13 years ago, which we did. I'm sure you're all dying to know what in God's name that story is. The short version is, it involves our collective first semester of uni/college, a frat party, way too much alcohol, an occupied-by-someone-else bathroom, his sweater and my being a lightweight. And somehow, 13 years later, we have yet to decide whose fault it was and we are still stupidly amused by it. Or. Well. I am. Anyhoo, in lovely timing, I also got to see my friend's younger sister and again, the London tales continued.
Bidding everyone adeiu, I drove back to the hinterland and had a lovely two days of Christmas festivities with the family where we somehow managed to be nice to each other for, I think, the entire time. I'm nominating us for a collective Nobel Peace Prize. I'm one of the fortunate ones who actually enjoys family time and am extremely close to all of them, but still. That much time with anyone makes you turn homicidal. And we didn't. So yay. I had stupidly volunteered to make a birthday cake for my nephew's birthday and had grand plans for the Perfect Cake.
But, come Friday morning, with my jetlag mostly gone, I slept too late for the actual perfect cake and I had to make do with all-purpose flour, rather than cake flour. The horror. My mother and I then amused ourselves for nearly 90 minutes drawing SpongeBob Squarepants on the cake with various candies and icing. It was more like SpongeBob Squarepants Very Special Cousin, but we tried. We all went out for my poor nephew's day-after-Christmas birthday, a curse he will carry for all of his days. And I got to have actual, ooey, gooey American pizza, which was quite possibly the best moment of my entire trip. I'm endlessly amused that this fantastic pizza is in the hinterland and I have to allow that it makes the hinterland borderline cool. And I am happy and proud to announce that my nephew approved of our Special SpongeBob Squarepants. And everyone loved the cake :P
Saturday, my last day stateside, was the best day of all. Though it wasn't quite the same as being back for good, I spent the day with my nephew. We went to one of his favourite restaurants, Bob Evans, for a plastic breakfast and then it was off to the museums for a bit. I was excited that the American History museum (my favourite) had just reopened after a two year renovation closure and had planned to take him there, with promises of Kermit the Frog and Dorothy's ruby slippers being there. Only, when we drove by, there were 507 people outside, who all had the same idea.
It was a comical and amusing realisation of how much he's growing up that he read me the directions to drive to the museum, called my brother when we got lost anyway (via a mobile borrowed from his mother for the day) and, as we drove past the heinous line whilst searching for parking, we both agreed that the American History museum wasn't worth waiting in that queue/line and we went to the next door Natural History museum, which had no line.
"They have a GIANT squid," I said, "And a whale hanging from the ceiling." Well, that was more than enough to win the now 7 year old boy over and off we set. I'm proud to announce that we spent a good 4 hours there and he was massively intrigued and interested the whole time...and he can read frighteningly well. Oh, and perhaps most importantly, the giant squid is still there and it is still totally gross.
Having taken in most of the exhibits and seen a 3D IMAX movie on dinosaurs where a T-Rex type dinosaur bit our heads off, we set off to meet up with his parental unit at the zoo, which had a night time Christmas lights thing. We left the car in downtown DC and took the metro up to the zoo, because I'd promised him we'd take the train.
Due to his current obsession with SpongeBob Squarepants, we spent most of our time in the sea exhibits joking about SpongeBob and his friends. So, as we walked up the hill to the zoo after our train ride, I continued the discussion and noted that we never did find the pineapple in the museum (SpongeBob lives in a pineapple).
There was a pause and, in a quiet and concerned voice, my astute nephew said "you know, SpongeBob isn't real..."
And it was all I could do not to sit down right there on the sidewalk/pavement and giggle hysterically. Instead, I chose to save my dignity as best I could.
"I know that," I said. And err, that was my whole retort.
So, we finally met up with the parental unit and the kid was becoming tired and cranky so, though it was cool to see the zoo at night for the first time in my life, we didn't stay long and - after a collectively cranky search - we stopped for dinner before saying goodbye and taking both cars back to the hinterland.
My brother ditched me on the freeway and, having returned the borrowed mobile when we left DC, I had another helpless foreigner/idiot moment, I got lost briefly right in the heart of where I lived for 5 years, where I still own property. Eventually arriving back to the farm, I called him briefly to say both that I was alive and that he was an idiot and I went to bed.
Taking the day flight back, morning arrived too quickly and it was time to head back to my beloved London. I got to fly the new business class back, which I was stupidly excited about and loved...and I learned that the day flight is dangerous because the free-flowing alcohol is at the end of the flight rather than the beginning of it. And so, with a drunken hello and Happy New Year to the immigration occifer at passport control, I was back in my beloved city...ready to enjoy my last week of freedom and realising that maybe a person can love two places at once.
Happy New Year!